The Gift of Gratitude

Alexander Lyadov
2 min readMay 22, 2024
Yale Joel/LIFE magazine

No matter how hard we try, we can’t escape ourselves. This means that in any situation and with different people, we will recreate the world order that is typical for us.

A simpleton will always partner with someone who tricks him. A scattered creator will start a great business, only to destroy it himself. A rescuer will find those who supposedly can’t survive without him.

To escape this trap, we need to be grateful for what we have now.

How? What does gratitude have to do with it? I don’t like what I have!

If we always end up in the same place, no matter where we go, it’s time to stop fussing. There is no external solution, and there never will be.

The point of applying effort is not the paper, the typewriter, or the printing press, but the one who keeps typing the same narrative.

He acts like a mechanical doll, a droid, or a CNC machine. But we suspect that inside the steel shell, there is an Author.

Alas, force won’t help the Author. The secret is that the key to his prison is hidden in his pocket. He longs for freedom just as much as he fears it. Thus, he is both Prisoner and Guard to himself.

This struggle will continue until the Author admits, “There is some meaning in my situation being what it is.” And so, instead of a torturous problem, he now has an intriguing task.

Did you notice how a curse turned into a gift?

Gratitude helped accept the idea that everything is indeed for the Author’s benefit.

Sincerely yours,


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Alexander Lyadov

As a business therapist, I help tech founders increase the value of their business by unlocking the potential of their personality.